yes i need help,i just turned 30 i model for a living and look very young and and i just tried a dating site?
i just tried a dating site called zoosk last week and i met an attractive 20 year old shes vry very attractive and she wants a relationship we hit it off and after a week we were a couple,the thing that bothers me is that she goes out and drinks and parties alot,and i told he ri dont have many guy friends mostly friends that are girls and she said that thats not good you need guy friends i was like i have a few but i get along better with girls and she told me when she turns 21 in feb shes going to go out a lot to try clubs and spring break weekend and bars and she wants me to have guy friends for that reason well all this upset me and i told her i dont think we are commpatible it upset me majorly i dont go out alot and drink im ore of a hombody can anyone give me some advice shes a really decent girl christian and vrything but i can see the youngness in her
she never said she was going to be unfaitful at all,just that when she turns 21 in february she want to try out clubs and bars and shes going to a bachelorette party in feb and going out for spring break she doesnt cheat evr
and i dunno why she wants me to have guy friends,she said so what are you going to do when i go out with my girlfriends? i said i dunno,so makes no sense to me i have two guy friend sin my life and im not the guy who hangs out and does stuff all the time i work i go to school i travel for my job it requires a lot of attention so i dunno,i know shes young and wants to experience the bar scene i dunno
hahah so andrea you think she will cheat even though she told me she wouldnt and is a 100 percent commited?
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first of all, if she’s going out partying a lot, and is dropping hints of being unfaithful, you need to end the relationship. second of all, if she a good, decent, Christian girl, i think she should re-look how Christians are called to live their lives.
good luck with everything.
Women will do what they want to do. Freedom is a very integral part of their nature, so you won’t be able to change her. As a man you should do what you want and keep control over yourself and your relationship with her. The man guides the direction of the relationship and the woman does better following along his lead. If the two of you don’t work out don’t worry. There are MANY more women out there… to get hung up on one is really a tragedy that you should keep in mind to avoid at all costs.
Learn what you can about what women are attracted to by reading books or browsing around on the internet. That’s what I’ve done and I’ve gained some extremely valuable skills and a new found confidence that never fails me.
I agree with emily but what I want to know is why does she insist that you find a guy friend? If she really trusted you and wanted to be with you she’d be fine with the fact that their are more women in your life than there are men and would not feel the need to go out so often. I’m 38 and understand what it was like to be her age, wanting to experience new things as much as possible but now I’m also, a homebody and understand where your coming from. I too have many guy friends because I get along with them better as well. The minute any guy tells me I need to drop my friends is a deal breaker. This is changing a part of who I am and I will never allow anyone to mold me into what they want.
Dear and what exactly do you think goes on at bachelorette parties or spring break. Take a lesson from nature, spring is the time that all animals (and many humans) feel the need to mate.
Yes, I really do. I know what was going through my young mind during spring break. Party, get drunk and check out guys. When i was her age there was no way I could stand just sitting at home, watching the news like and old married couple. I had places to go, drinks that needed to be drunk and punk show that needed to be seen. Your girlfriend is a party girl and being a home body isn’t her cup of tea. I doesn’t surprise me that you don’t find the relationship incompatible. There’s a generation gap and both of your goals right this very moment are polar opposites. Some opposites attract, my parents are good examples of this, but with opposite they at least have a few similarities.
I’ve dated guys that I have absolutely nothing in common with. I give it my best shot to try new things but I’ll eventually look at it as fooling myself. I was set up with a guy in his early 30’s last year and I went over to his place and had dinner. In conversation I mentioned how I occasionally play games like solitaire on my computers he got tickled pink and showed me all 100 games he plays on his two computers. As weird, juvenile and isolated as it sounded I over looked it. One date we had he took me goofy golfing and laser tag. I slapped on a smile and went but the whole time I thought, “Damn. I would have peed my pants with joy if I were 13 years old”. This made me realize that I was doing everything to accommodate his interest yet, if I dared to show him things that I liked he became obviously uncomfortable as opposed to giving something like an art walk, a nice restaurant or a concert a try.
I know people hate change but there are times when we just have to slap on a smile and work out a compromise. This guy wasn’t willing to do that and we’d always leave my interests early where I’d tough out a whole evening of an activity I did as a kid. The relationship seemed one sided to me so I talked to him about how we don’t have much in common, he agreed and we stopped dating.
I’d rather be alone than settle with a guy, younger or older than me, where all I do is cater only to his interest. I’m not a Stepford wife. If she’s 100% committed to you then why do you have doubt about your compatibility?