Ok so my friend is dating a 19 year old. She’s 15. Last summer another one of my friends, who was 14 at the time, dated a 19 year old and was raped. Here’s a link if you don’t believe me:

http//host.madison.com/news/local/crime_and_courts/article_f5379b92-b3f5-11e0-9f3c-001cc4c03286.html

This time it’s a 19 year old firefighter. I don’t trust him. He must be desperate or dumb or both to risk his job and his freedom dating a 15 year old. Apparently they met online when he was a senior and in firefighter training and she was a freshman. She has told me that she slept with him on the second time they’ve physically met, but I can’t tell if that’s true or not. I have also heard from her friends that he is anally controlling and texts her every 5 seconds when she goes out to make sure she’s not cheating on him. Personally, I don’t get what she sees in him at all. But she has dated a lot of really weird and creeperish people. What you think?
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well i am kind of dating this guy who is a christian like me and i know he isn’t one of those people who just pretend to be a christian. before we started going out he was my really good friend and we have known each other since we met at sunday school in the 3rd grade. i haven’t seen him much in the past 4 years since we went to different churches but now we go to the same church again and while dating him i’ve found some things about his past that bothered me. i’ve always known he’s had it hard for awhile. he’s adopted and his dad has been really mean to him and his mom. he really confided in me a while ago and told me that he has been sad about his past because he used to do drugs, was in a gang, and at one point tried to kill himself. i guess he could tell i was worried about that because he said “don’t worry, i’m not like that at all anymore.” but i know if my mom knew this stuff about him she wouldn’t want us dating. should i be worried?

shes on vacation right now.
she told me shes going to go to east coast like late august…
yes….. I do know her number for some of you wondering -_-.. she calls me at times and i call her at times for things lol

I mean is it weird for a freshman college girl to go out with hs senior..?
So, I like this girl, but she is going to be in college next year in the East Coast. However, I am going to be a senior in high school in the West Coast. I’ve known her for about two years. These two years we’ve got to known each other pretty well. So, I can say we’re pretty close already? A couple things I know for a fact about her is that she is super shy, super nice and is super Christian. (I’m shy, but I’m Agnostic). She’s one of the girls I really will like to date, but like I really do not know what to do. I am doing dinner and movie with like 6 people total and inviting her along (4 guys 2 girls), does that even sound good? Like, I don’t want to make it too obvious I like her though, but hint I guess. I mean I hang out with her at times, but I feel this will help me get to know her even more. I’m like really shy and stuff, like, I was going to ask her to prom like last month, but found out she was going with friends so I didn’t ask because I just wanted her to have fun. So yeah.. Tips and advices please.
I’m not one of those guys that just wants to date because it makes me look cool, but my intent of dating is to get to know the girl better. (:

Hi. I am thinking of suicide right now. I am a 20 year old woman that got herpes as a result of a rape. I am so severely depressed. I had a sore about 3 weeks after the rape. I went to the doctor and she said it was a yeast infection. However, two day sago (10 months after the rape) I got another sore. It healed in two days.

I just want to die. I just went to this website for herpes support and it says “Face it, you WILL be rejected”

I can’t take it anymore. I just want to die. I was hoping to wait to have sex until marriage. However, I don’t know if any men these days would be willing to wait.

I just want to die. I am supposed to start college tomorrow (I dropped out bc of the rape but they are letting me come back) but I am so depressed. I was planning on telling my future fiance after we are engaged. If I tell every guy I am casually dating, they will blab to my whole social circle. Then everyone I know will know. Why do people say that would be dishonest if I wait to tell my fiance after we are engaged? Should I just put on my Facebook and MySpace that I have herpes, just be honest? What ever happend to privacy? How is it any guys business unless we are planning on getting married.

Please help me. I am seriously considering suicide. My whole life is shattered. I went shopping today at the mall but I was so deeply drepssed. I have a fresh start at school tomorrow (the rape ruined my schooling but the dean is letting me come back) but all I think about is herpes.

Should I kill myself and end it all? Will every guy think I am disgusting? SHOULD i GO TO CHURCH AND MEET A GUY? Would a nice Christian guy understand?????? How come every guy I meet as soon as we start going on days he asks how I like sex……….If guys these days are so casual about sex, then why are they so grossed out be herpes??? People are bound to get herpes eventually.

Should I kill myself? I have no hope.

My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 yrs. We have 4 children together plus one from a prev. relationship. He doesn’t celebrate Christmas, I certainly was not made aware of this before we got married. If I knew this info. I would of had second thoughts. He won’t let me and children get a tree, wreath, lights nothing of the sort. I don’t think that is fair to us. He knew when he was dating me that I celebrate Christmas and it was favorite time of the year!! Every year around this time I ponder on leaving him because I am so unhappy.Is this something to get a divorce over? The only thing is the children ages 8,4,2,1 and one on the way in Feb. I am a SAHM, (stay at home mom), I have no income whatsoever. Would I be able to take the risk of being a single mother with 5 children to care of? One last clue I am a christian and he is a reborn muslim(not orthodox but nation of islam). He joined after we got married. I feel mislead, but I do love him. It is our conflicting religon.

About a week and a half ago me and my best friend were reading a magazine about men and porn. My friend asked me “Do you think your boyfriend looks at porn?” It was a question I had never really thought about before, but said no, he wouldn’t do that to me, he loves me. and he’s a church boy. Which is true because he really really tries to be this holy christian boy.

But that evening that question came into my head again. “Does my boyfriend watch porn?” He came over that night and i asked him “Baby, do you watch porn?” and he smiled, like he was teasing me. He said no. I asked if he ever had. He said once because he was “bored and horny.” I asked have you ever watched porn while you were dating me. he said no.

Well a week later i was at his house. He was in the bathroom, so i turned his computer on and quickly searched his history. And WA-LA! there it was, a recently viewed porn website called YouJizz.com. I clicked on it. It was the nastiest crap i’ve ever seen. He came out of the bathroom, and i asked baby, whats YouJizz.com? and he turned red and turned around. I said “answer me baby, what is it?” he said you know what it is. So we talked about it a little.

I asked him why? why does he look at that? he said he can’t help it. Does that mean he’s addicted? I mean i think i’d be good enough to satisfy him. I’m a pretty blonde girl and i go to the gym. I’ve got a “hot” body. So i dont understand. Can anyone tell me what it is im supposed to do? It really bothers me.

Well my boyfriend and i have been dating since November 27, 2008.I love him, he tells me he love me too and he also tells me he really means it. We’ve had our ups and downs, but what relationship doesn’t? He wants to have sex with me but i’m a christian and don’t want to go against God’s rules. He tells me he doesn’t want me to anything i don’t but he tells me if he’s my first we’ll always have a connection with each other. I tell him lets wait until marriage that way we won’t have to use condoms or have worry of us becoming teenage parents. Am I doing the right thing?

Ok, so met this girl Chelsi a few days ago and she’s really hot, smart, and cool and were pretty good friends now . But I noticed that she had a purity ring and I said to myself if were gonna start dating, I’m going to meet her parents and they might not be too happy that I don’t have a purity ring. Then I gave it some thought and did some research and I think it could be good for me as in seriously , not just to start dating Kristi. I heard that the Jonas Brothers have them, but I’m not doing it for them, im doing it for Chelsi.

Do I need to be Christian to have a purity ring? cause I’m Catholic.
Do I need to talk to my parents about it? I wouldn’t feel comfortable talking to my parents about that.
Does anybody have a website where I can find normal priced guys purity rings? I’m not looking to spend $300 on a purity ring. No more than $100.

THNX for your answers.
It’s Chelsi. I got confused cause my friend Dylan was asking me if I still liked Kristi (my old crush like 3 three months ago). Yes I’m a virgin and yes its serious.
Im 14 so of course I’m a virgin. Im not a slut.

Ok, my new gf says that if my mom continues the rules that have been in place for me since I was a child it will impact on our ability to date plus its really kind of weird anyway. I am a 19 year old boy and I still have a bedtime on school nights. It’s at 10 pm. I get my pjs on at 9″30 then my mom comes in tucks me in and we cuddle for awhile. We have a discussion of what I’m doing the next day how my studies are coming along (I’m a Chemistry Major in college) and then she tucks me in and the next thing I know I’m sound asleep and when I open my eyes its morning. My 16 year old sister who does not have a mandatory bedtime (Heather thinks thats TOTALLY!! weird) says I sleep like a rock and now and then mom sends her into my room to make sure i’m breathing because I sleep so soundly. Anyway I get really tired and I mentioned that I like the mandatory bedtime because I really get tired and want to sleep. I get up at 5:30 in the morning and sometimes 6 if I’m sleeping in a little lol lol> I don’t take naps during the day.

The second restricttion is more weird. I have a 11 pm curfew on weekends (non school days) and its a problem for dating and parties (NOT wild parties but socials for Christian young adults like Heather and I) because it really breaks things up just when we are starting to really have fun.

I’m thinking to offer my mom a mandatory 9 pm bedtime on school nights (its still Summer break) but I still go to bed like there is school the next day) in exchange for a 1 AM curfew on weekends if I’m out with Heather. She does not have any restrictions.

Heather and I have been friends since middle school and we dated in high school. I did not have a driver’s license so she drove and made sure to get me home by 11 pm. She would come inside and kiss and cuddle then she would leave to get home by midnight. i always called her on her cell to make sure she got home safely or she would call me.

This is…well, I gotta be honest, a stupid situation to be in. But I’m pretty torn. You see, I’m almost 17 and I was just asked out on my first date (the guy is 15 going on 16.) In fact, I just WENT on my first date. The only issue is, my parents didn’t know. I’m allowed to date, but my mother won’t allow me to do so unless I’m double dating (and since none of my friends will let me double-date with them, it’s gotta be my sister and fiancé) I really didn’t bother telling her of this most recent date because A( She’d complicate it. B( I was going with two other friends. So it wasn’t a real, real date. I wasn’t alone, at all with him, and felt that if I had to bring my sister into the picture, it’d ruin the night for everyone else.

I come home and I tell her I was asked out on a date. Her first words are “just remember you have to double-date.” Yeah, may I add she showed no enthusiasm. I remind her none of my friends will do that with me, and she nonchalantly says “Then it’ll be with your sister.”

Well, this more than complicates things. It’s IMPOSSIBLE enough to work around my own schedule, his, and our rides. Now I’d have to work around my sister’s schedule, and her fiancés. We’d NEVER go out, and if we did, it’d be for 1 hour, once a month. I really feel I’d be better off keeping this from her until things got serious with him. This is just extremely casual dating. What do you think?

(notes: I plan to stay a virgin until marriage. We’re both Christian. I’d never go in a room alone with him, or be alone with him. I’d follow my mother’s rules, I just wouldn’t COMPLICATE things by doing it with my sister. As for ‘breaking her trust’ goes, she could honestly care less about what I do. I’m going on my first date and her reaction is “*nods* Remember the rules.”)