We’ve been going pretty steady for a long time and the relationship is really deep (the ‘L word’ has been said by both of us), but as far as religion goes, we’re almost polar opposites. Everytime I try to talk to him about my faith, he just kinda blows it off because he doesn’t agree with my beliefs. How do I tell him that I don’t want to convert him, I do want to discuss each other’s faiths, and that my faith is important to me and it hurts me when he blows me off?

ok, im a christian, but im in a situation that many of us come across, the idea of dating a non-christian. I really like this guy, and i know he likes me because hes tried to kiss me (i dont let him because i dont know if i should get into a relationship with him). Im pretty sure hes not a virgin, and he drinks (which i dont have a problem with, but i do when he drinks and drives). The reason hes not a christian was because his mother died when he was young and his father didnt raise him to be a christian. I honestly feel that if i were to date this guy, i could help him to be a christian. but, is it ok for a woman to do that for the guy in the relationship? i have alwasy been told that it is the role of the man to have the strong (maybe even stronger) faith. but, then again, it is my job as a christian to lead people to christ, and by dating him i think i could. However, the bigger matter that bothers me is the fact that hes not a virgin. i just kinda bothers me

Me and my ex boyfriend broke up back in sepemtber. I was his first girlfriend, and well he is senior in high school and im a freshmen in college and i met this new guy and hes so much nicer and treats me well. He asked me out and I said yes. So we have been dating. I went online on AIM and put a cute quote with his name underneather it in my buddy profile. Then when my ex signed on he put his away messages saying “Stop with your profile changeing, no one gives a shit.”

Why does he care? Why is he acting this way? I only changed my profile once

Hi,
I have become depressed for the last two years. You know when you get to the very end of a really good book and then it ends and you know that there will never be another book to read, well that’s how I feel all the time. I really dont have a clue why I feel like this. My mom and my biological father (it’s kind of complicated, he hates me and I don’t want him in my life) had a divorce and now my mom is struggling paying the bills. I don’t really feel bad about this though (I dont know why) and I don’t think it’s the cause of my depression, but It could be and I wouldn’t know how to fix it.
Where I live everyone is either a Mormon (I have nothing against them, it’s just that I am the only Christian in my school and the Mormons kind of segregate…) or a Hispanic (once again, no hard feelings) and they don’t like to talk to people like me because I don’t speak Spanish. I don’t know if this is getting me down but if it is then I would like some advice.
My mom isn’t a normal mother either. If I went to a counselor then she would try to send me to my biological father which would be worse. I have thought about suicide and not because I feel like crying myself to sleep every night or something like that, but rather that I would rather feel nothing then hold onto this pain that I carry everywhere. If I were to tell my mom about how I feel then she would once again send me to my biological father (which I WOULD rather kill myself then go). My mom is dating this guy (for like 3 years now and they are basically married except for the fact that my mom believes the government shouldn’t control marriages) and he is like a father to me. He is just always sick (allergic to wheat and has bad heart problems) and I don’t talk to him much.

I have no idea how to get out of this whole mess and it seems as though the Internet is the only way to get help… Help from relatives is out of the question. Any ideas?

Hi. I am thinking of suicide right now. I am a 20 year old woman that got herpes as a result of a rape. I am so severely depressed. I had a sore about 3 weeks after the rape. I went to the doctor and she said it was a yeast infection. However, two day sago (10 months after the rape) I got another sore. It healed in two days.

I just want to die. I just went to this website for herpes support and it says “Face it, you WILL be rejected”

I can’t take it anymore. I just want to die. I was hoping to wait to have sex until marriage. However, I don’t know if any men these days would be willing to wait.

I just want to die. I am supposed to start college tomorrow (I dropped out bc of the rape but they are letting me come back) but I am so depressed. I was planning on telling my future fiance after we are engaged. If I tell every guy I am casually dating, they will blab to my whole social circle. Then everyone I know will know. Why do people say that would be dishonest if I wait to tell my fiance after we are engaged? Should I just put on my Facebook and MySpace that I have herpes, just be honest? What ever happend to privacy? How is it any guys business unless we are planning on getting married.

Please help me. I am seriously considering suicide. My whole life is shattered. I went shopping today at the mall but I was so deeply drepssed. I have a fresh start at school tomorrow (the rape ruined my schooling but the dean is letting me come back) but all I think about is herpes.

Should I kill myself and end it all? Will every guy think I am disgusting? SHOULD i GO TO CHURCH AND MEET A GUY? Would a nice Christian guy understand?????? How come every guy I meet as soon as we start going on days he asks how I like sex……….If guys these days are so casual about sex, then why are they so grossed out be herpes??? People are bound to get herpes eventually.

Should I kill myself? I have no hope.

I’m fifteen, sophomore female, suburbanite, bored with the heck out of this town i live in. I go to a fairly small high school (with no senior class) and about 900 kids. I love my current friends (some) and life’s just fine, if it weren’t for these three problems:

1. This one girl who I shall call “Leah”. Leah, in my opinion, is smarter, prettier, and much more popular than me. The only thing I have against her is that I’m way nicer than her, not to be conceited or anything (but it’s totally true, you’ll see why in a few words). She used to be my best friend in middle school, but high school has changed us and we suddenly stopped being friends. She’s gotten more popular through playing basketball with a couple of guys she met online (Facebook, not dating sites) and were introduced to by mutual friends. One of her newfound bball friends, who doesn’t go to our school, is someone I find cute, and word got out that I thought so. Apparently it came out the wrong way and everyone now thinks I like him – even he knows. She then proceeded to talk trash about me, and I’m not sure exactly what, but apparently she is plotting to “bring me down”. Why would she ever do this? I have never done anything to her, seriously. What do you propose a girl like herself’s ulterior motive is?

Honestly, I want to become friends with her again, just for the sake of our uncomfortable relationship. We’re family friends so not seeing each other just doesn’t work. It’s actually her bday soon and I was thinking of getting her a present to her favorite store. Is this a good move?

2. COLLEGE! Yeah, I’m only in high school, but people have been telling me I can’t go to the college of my choice. I had a 4.0 GPA last year, as well as this year. This year I’m taking 1 AP and 1 Honors class I find challenging. I got B’s in both of them and A’s in everything else. Adults, including my parents, are telling me “tough luck” when I tell them I want to go to Syracuse, USC, or Northwestern for journalism. I feel terrible when they do this, since my friends all get 4.5 GPAs. How should I deal?

3. My two closest friends at school have boyfriends they are very close to, 6 months – 1 year in going out. Their boyfriends are best friends and my two closest friends are as well. They spend a lot of time together at school – lunches, brunches, etc. – and often leave no time for anything else. The two boyfriends don’t even bother getting to know me and I’m sick of it. My two friends are now not talking to me and whispering in their own little world. They still invite me to their double dates, but I end up getting excluded. I love my two friends dearly and I do not wish to lose them, but because of their boyfriends, I have. What should I do? Confront them?

Thanks for helping. :]

Im kinda having a little problem with this guy. Heres the story. We went to school together, he was a senior and I was a freshman and he so happened to be one of brothers friends. I saw him everyday I walked into school and I developed a little crush on him even though I never talked to him. So I did some searching and found his msn email on his myspace and than I messaged him and we started talking and all. So now its been one year. Hes a part time college student and I moved to another school and a sophmore. We dont see eachother, I saw him in December for a few minutes until things for weird. So we got really close into the last 2-3 months. He started out being a complete a$$ to me and it developed into a friendship. So in the last month he tells me some of his secrets and of course I would never tell anyone and he accepts me which he didnt do in the past the thing is since I first met him during freshman year ive had the biggest crush on him. Those slow songs that I hear on the radio remind me of him and it kills me that he wont date me because of the fact that hes my brothers friend. So a few days ago we got in a fight our first and we both said so mean things and he said “How about we not talk for a few weeks and see where we stand” and than he blocked me and hasnt talked to me since. He’s become really close to me and I cant take my mind off of him. I may sound like some stupid little teenager who is thinking she is in love but even though its selfish and mean I see right through past that. So what should I do? So I weight the next few weeks out?

Okay, I am 14, going to high school, and I’m not allowed to have a boyfriend. My parents are crazy strict (my mom had me in her teens). It makes sense for them to be strict, and I appreciate that they’ve been that way in the past. But I’m not even allowed to hang out with guys. At all. The guy I like, is and has been my best friend since about 5th grade. We really want to go out, but we want my parents to be okay with it, I don’t want to hide anything from them.
I NEED HELP!
They think the reason for people having boyfriends and girlfriends is to… “do the dead” if you catch my drift. But I am VERY against that, I’m very Christian, i have a purity ring and all that jazz.
And I don’t even want to kiss or anything. Not now, anyway, I want to take it slow, and so does he. We’ve seen what rushing does to our friends’ relationships, and we don’t want to do anything we’ll regret.
So…. I need help on the whole dating bit. Any suggestions?
And please don’t tell me “You’re too young” or anything. Look at all the young singers singing about love and love life and relationships. (ie; Miley Cryrus wrote her first love song when she was about 12, wasn’t released until she was 13)
And no, I don’t think I love him. I understand that the term “love” is a lot more complicated than throwing the words out there “i love you”. I know it takes time.
Please help!
Thanks:)
@Justin…
I am sorry that you are in health recovery. I am sorry to say this but I will not be emailing you, I need to keep safe. I know how guys easily minipulate. (Even you mentioned something about minipulating… I don’t know who you are and I don’t want to get hurt. You seem like a nice guy, but I’ve learned that I can trust only those who are very close to me) I didn’t exactly get your answer… Although I do hope you get better.
Plus, 5 year difference here. No way. I want my best friend…..
Sorry.

I read the book a few months ago, andonly remember the basic plot. I am alittle mized up with the order in which things happened, such as whether or not the Christmas play or Landon telling Jamie he loves her happened first. I can’t find any summaries online, only for the movie, which is quite differne.t I need a really good summary. If you cannot help with hthat, could you at least help me to decide where to go from here(this is all I remember):

“A Walk to Remember” follows the lives of two completely different people, Landon Carter and Jamie Sullivan. The story takes place in Beaufort, North Carolina, in the year of 1953. Beaufort is a small town, where everyone knows everyone and life was simpler. Landon Carter grew up here with his mother. His father is a congressman, and rarely sees his son. Landon is missing a father figure in his life, and this affects him greatly. Landon becomes the popular rebel in school, and is getting into trouble constantly. It’s his senior year, and he decides to take on drama as a “joke” class. The only actually part of the class that involves some work is putting on a famous Christmas play, written by their Reverend. He figures it will be an easy A, since he’s just counting down the days until schools over. He wants to attend North Carolina University after graduation, and is doing everything possible do to so. In drama, he meets Jamie Sullivan, an unpopular, shy girl, who wears old brown sweaters and plaid skirts everyday, and carries her Bible with her everywhere. Jamie is the reverend’s daughter, and believes everything that happens to her is “a part of the Lord’s plan”. She gets good grades, volunteers, helps out at the orphanage, and does everything possible to help everyone. She is the sure candidate for the lead role in the Christmas play, as the Christmas angel.

Landon is working hard to try and get into college. His father decides he needs more extra-curricular activities, so he urges him to run for class president. Landon does, and with the help of some friends, he wins. One of his duties as president is to attend the homecoming dance. He needs to find a date, but has just recently broken up with his girlfriend. He flips through his yearbook, and realizes that the only girl left without a date is Jamie Sullivan. Landon is hesitant, yet decides to ask her. Jamie says yes, as long as Landon “does not fall in love with her”. Landon says that won’t be a problem. At the dance, Jamie helps Landon’s friends out of a lot of trouble, and Landon sees her in a new way. As Landon walks her home, she asks him to be the leading male role in the Christmas play, for nobody else really fit the part. Landon does not want to, yet he is thankful for her help with his friends, so he reluctantly agrees.

The two practice their lines all the time, and Landon begins to like Jamie more and more. He even starts walking her home every night, even though Jamie’s father disapproves. Jamie invites Landon to visit the orphanage with her, and he agrees, even though he isn’t very fond of the idea. There, Landon realizes how happy she can make the children, even though she has nothing to give to them. Landon starts to fall in love with Jamie, and begins hanging out with her at school, despite what everyone thinks.