I joined the online dating industry in the hopes of finding someone special because I just seem to find it so difficult to speak to women. But if I’m introduced to a female friend, I can easily make a conversation with them. I joined the site Plentyoffish, having tried sites like match.com etc but realised I was going wrong with my message subjects “Hi”. Should have been more unique and so I’m getting quite good at messages now and do get a few responses. However I’m struggling with writing my profile. I never lie, because honesty is something I value. Its just sometimes I think do people think I’m someone who is “too good to be true” (not being biggeaded or anything) but in a way that I am quite a young guy, who doesn’t really enjoy the clubbing scene much but enjoys making people laugh and smile, staying in with a DVD etc..

I usually put I’m a romantic minded guy who is a true gentlemen (it seems many women don’t think young gentlemen exist anymore but I can’t exactly blame you because of the amount of times i’ve seen people put that their bf cheated or lied too them). Its now as if all guys are branded the same “just after one thing” and I don’t know if women think I am lieing or “putting on an act” to try and impress them and then use them or cheat/lie. I’m just myself but I believe in respect for others and I treat others as they treat me.

I have been dating this guy for about a year. God has honestly told me that i dont need to be in a relationship with a guy right now and says i need to end it. I want to marry this guy i LOVE him to death and i want him to wait for me until God says its okayy to start dating, But that seems so selfish and i dont know what to do. I really dont want to break up with him and im just scared because i know im not listening to God. What do i do?

A man who doesn’t go to church every Sunday? I am a Christian who is involved in the church. I attend church every Sunday.

I’ve known this man for almost a year. we just casually talk and go out to dinner. Its never been nothing more. We recently considered getting to know each other more and seeing where it goes. However, he told me he has a relationship with God, believes and is spiritual. But sometimes he’s too tired to get up and go to church after a long week or work and the gym, so sometimes on Sunday he’ll get the word through the tv.

I said I want someone as dedicated as I am, and we cut things off. Was this wrong, does he not need to attend church every Sunday. I just think it’s odd… and I assume he’ll attend church much less than he will watch it on TV.
Thanks Ashley for the book… I’ll look it up.

I was thinking about the courting.. thats why has been going on. However, we considered dating… until all the issues of church came up.

Hey guys, I’m a 22 year old male and i’m dating or have been with my girlfriend since I was 16. Along the years within our relationship I’ve been born again and baptized since two years ago. And I’m facing a very big dilemma. My girlfriend is not a christian, and I’ve tried embracing the love of christ and bring her to know the lord. It has been awhile now and things are not going pretty well anymore. She believes in god, but it seems like she isn’t a seeker. I dont know what to do. We constantly argue and I barely have any strength left to handle us being together and not being on the same level. I feel like were not working together but against each other. I’m totally lost, something is telling me to let her go but its hard because my heart won’t let her go. Should I continue and hope one day things will get brighter or leave her? I still care for her and I even more miserable without her, but things are screwed.

Online dating is the best option for men to meet women. Internet personals offer the widest variety and there is no pressure.

okay my mom died april 5 2009 and my dads aready dating i dont like it should i tell him?will it be selfish because he deserves happyness?will it make God angry?is it okay to feel sad mad and lonely and not understand everything i feel?

How do you feel about meeting someone online? I met this guy on Craigslist and we have just been emailing each other. No personal data or pictures exchanged. We are being respectful of each others privacy. But it went from friendly emails to flirty ones…..not purposely but I think because there might be something. How do you all feel about online talking that may turn into something? And is it really safe? I know you cant always be too sure. But how do you really know if the guy is telling the truth? I guess there really is no way, just have to go with your gut. Help me please!

How do you feel about meeting someone online? I met this guy on Craigslist and we have just been emailing each other. No personal data or pictures exchanged. We are being respectful of each others privacy. But it went from friendly emails to flirty ones…..not purposely but I think because there might be something. How do you all feel about online talking that may turn into something? And is it really safe? I know you cant always be too sure. But how do you really know if the guy is telling the truth? I guess there really is no way, just have to go with your gut. Help me please!

There’s this new guy at my school who I’m friends with, let’s call him C. C is friends with one of my best guy friends, A. C and A know each other through football. I sit by all of the football players (all guys) at lunch (don’t call me a whore-I’m not. None of my good friends are in my lunch hour, so I sit by my good guy friends who all just happen to be linemen on our football team). I met C when school started, and he was really nice to me, but he’s really quiet. I sort of like him, even though I’m not like best friends with him.
Today at lunch, I just sat by C, because A had to get an MRI because of a football injury. C was really protective of me, because there are some really creepy kids at our table who are really just pervs. C ignored their comments and defended me when I got mad at the creeps for saying creepish things about girls none of us knew in our lunch hour (one creeper said: “Look at that girl’s @$$” then C said : “That’s creepy. And a freshman can’t date a senior, dumb@$$”). Also, we’ll talk a lot about the most random things, like we’ll end up laughing hysterically over something stupid that happened coincidentially in bio, when we’re in different bio classes. He’s really nice and won’t be disrespectful to me in any way. If I cough or sneeze, he’ll be the only one to say “Bless you,” and he’ll offer to throw away everyone’s trash from lunch. He’s very polite.
Yesterday, my friend A was talking to me online, and the subject of C came up. I said that I didn’t know if C considers me a friend, but I hope he does. A said, “I know he does, and I know he enjoys sitting by you at lunch, i wonder why teeheehee” Do you think that C could possibly like me? And if he does how do I talk to him without making things awkward, especially if we’re at one of the varsity football games. All of our friends have pretty much coupled up (A and my best friend, F (another guy on the football team) and one of my other good friends, etc, our whole group of friends that we usually hang out with has coupled up. And C isn’t really in our group, he’s just friends with A and F.) then it would be me and C there, not a couple, and it would be awkward, especially if it turns out that he likes me too. What should I do about it, and I know he’s going to be with our group on Friday at our varsity game?
Also, F said last week that C was a decent guy and then on Saturday when it was a few of us hanging out, F said that C was “annoying” because he talks to F. C is new, and doesn’t really have that many friends at our school, so of course he’s going to talk to someone, and he’d never be annoying on purpose. A said that C is “a good guy” so I don’t really know what my other friends think of C and what to think of him, even though I like him. I’m second guessing a lot with myself liking C because I broke up with my first boyfriend about a month ago because he turned out to be one of those guys who just wants to get in a girl’s pants. So now I’m not really sure what to do about this relationship type thing. I’m really scared that C is going to change and turn into a creep like my ex boyfriend.
Sorry if this is all confusing, but my questions are:
1. Do you think C likes me?
2. What should I do Friday, to make things not awkward between me and C?
3. Should I be freaked out about C changing and becoming a total creep? and do I have a right to be freaked out? Because my ex boyfriend was really sweet to me and everything, but he was flirting with all the girls in our history class and he was really conceded and then I found out that he was planning to try to make out with me at Homecoming, when we were only dating for a week. Also, he’s a general jerk (now that we broke up that is) and the day after we broke up he asked out another girl. I’m really scared that this is going to happen again.

**Please don’t say that F is a jerk, he’s really nice, he just gets annoyed easily. Even his girlfriend said that what he said about C was out of line, especially in the tone that he said it.
**Please don’t tell me to completely avoid my ex-boyfriend, that would be impossible. I talk to him as little as possible.
Yeah, sorry. I’m pretty sure this is all very confusing. Especially with the name abbreviations and stuff.
So here’s the jist of it, for people:

C- friend, the guy I like
A, F- two of my best guy friends
Then there’s me.
And then there’s my ex-boyfriend.
We’re in high school, too.