Im almost 30 + a single Christian girl. Have I Ieft it 2 late? Most of the girls my age are attached or lonely?
I became single almost a year ago. My fiance who was a Christian ended up being unfaithful so I ended our relationship. Its taken a year to get my confidence back. I was so happy but I didnt know him. Im a Christian girl aged 29. I’d say I was a loving, pretty and fun girl. However there seems to be a shortage of men in church and Ive joined various Christian dating sites with no success.
There are LOADS of single girls in all the churches I have been to. All seem lonely and disheartened and most seem resigned to the fact that they will end up single and alone. It’s horrible. I cry everytime I come back from church because I am surrounded by single girls and then young families. I feel such a pressure to find someone. I think its because I had planned my wedding and in my head I was going to be settled with a family. Now Im on my own again and most people my age in couples dont want to hang around with me. They are doing things with their partner.
Im starting to think I should date guys who are not Christians or face being single forever. The only problem is that I am still a virgin and dont want to have sex until Im married. How will I find a non Christian who will wait for me? Will they think Im a freak? Any advice would be really appreciated. I feel so crap right now 
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what are you witting for – a taxi
it’s not just you. I’m 26 and i feel the same way. the only reason i don’t go to church is because I don’t like looking like a loner. to bad we don’t live in the same state I would totally be interested in meeting you
you just have to look around. keep your eyes open and you will find someone.
when you find someone tell them that you want to wait, and if they don’t respect that, then find someone who will. if they truly love you then they won’t think you’re a freak and they will respect you and your religion.
don’t feel bad – you will find someone one day, most likely someone who needs someone like you to bring God’s love into their lives.
hun, i’m 34 and i’m still one, i’ve been waiting for that special someone to come my way, it doesn’t matter how old or young you are you lose it when its right for you and when you are ready, i really admire you for what you believe in so don’t be down about it, be proud of yourself and who you are!
My ex left me almost a year ago, i often feel like i won’t ever get that chance to get married and such but i know one day i’ll get that chance, i know you get down when you are hurting, but don’t change your morels because of some jerk, stick to what you know and believe in, don’t change who you are to get what you want, if you ever need to talk feel free to message me (:
Hope this kinda helps
Christianity doesn’t matter a jot … any guy will wait for you if he’s a good guy and he loves you. There are PLENTY of good guys out there who aren’t christians, and aren’t religious at all in fact. Spread your wings a little
You a e not going to find many men who will not want to be intimate with their girlfriend if they are in their 30s; nor will they be “willing to wait until marriage”.
I say you dump the whole “wait until I’m married.” Why, you ask? I don’t know any guys in your age group who:
a) assume their girlfriends are virgins
b) actively seek out virgins
c) care at all if their girlfriends are not virgins
I am not saying you should turn into a super-slut or anything; just that it is perfectly acceptable to be intimate with your boyfriend after a month or two when you are 29.
Keep your head up! I’m 34 and still single but look at this time as a good time to do things in ministry to help others. When the good Lord says the time is right for me to settle down with a girl i will. You just have to get the confidence built back up. DO NOT lower your standards thinking it will make you happy bc it surely won’t.
Guys nowadays feel consumed by the idea that they need to have sex with as much women as possible and sadly its socially acceptable. The Christian faith does not offer them the opportunity to do that which is why there are more women who are Christians than men which is horrible for the girls because most Christian girls want to get married and have kids. God says don’t be yoked with unbelievers and just recently I learned that a yoke was a device that bound 2 oxen together when plowing fields. It rendered them inseparable. This reference means that God does not want you to date/marry unbelievers because that is what marriage does… it unites man and woman until death. Being single would be the right thing to do unless you find a Christian mate but know that it might not be God’s plan for you to get married. I commend you for staying a virgin, that takes a lot of self control and dedication to God. There are other ways to make your life meaningful. You can go on missions, do charity work, etc. I’ll pray for you =]
trying to find a mate under such pressure can be very stressful – there are many alternatives to church or even dating sites. there are many social platforms that you should try out, and instead of focusing on finding a mate, learn to have fun and befriend more people first.
as much as there are bad reputation surrounding most dating sites, the truth is, there are many who are successful with them. The key is to find the real good ones who are interested in pairing you rather than getting you to buy a membership. if this 46 yr old lady can do it, so can you…
http://www2.tbo.com/content/2010/sep/22/hospital-stay-doesnt-stop-plant-city-womans-nuptia/news-breaking/