How can I find the right Christian girlfriend?
I am a young Christian male and I want to live my life totally for the Lord. I desire to have kindness and compassion for others. However, I have had problems with dating. Many years ago, I met a beautiful Puerto Rican girl at a Christian conference. Ever since then, I have found myself very attracted to Latin, Indian, Polynesian, and Filipino women–all dark complected girls! I have prayed to God over and over for an open heart and mind on this matter. Every single time that I try to date
somebody that I am not attracted to, they end up being a combination of a liar, a promiscuous sleep around, and drunk! Worst of all, these kinds of girls have been in the church!
I hate to say it, but it seems like that (in my case), if a girl has acne, overweight, or has a disability; or just not at all attractive, instead of being extremely tan, beautiful, and full of love for the Lord, then she turns evil!
What should I do? If it is God will to have the young woman of my desires, how should I go about seeking help on this matter and where? All Christian advice will be appreciated!
Thanks everybody for the awesome answers! I really do appreciate all the great Godly advice! By the way, I didn’t mean to imply that all overweight, blemished, or people with disabilities were evil–no, no, no! I was just saying that in some cases in my past, some of these people led immoral and corrupt lives–but so can “attractive people.” I have mild partial paralysis on my right side, but I can still be very active, healthy, and attractive.
I’m putting everything in Jesus’ hands by reading my Bible, praying, and letting Him make decisions for me! I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength! Philippians 4:13.
I will do what HE tells me to do in situations. He will make his will known!
Please keep the answers coming! 
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Seek God
He’s cooking a meal here, and you can’t rush it.
He’s making you perfect for her, and He’s making her perfect for you
If you cut corners or add your own ingredients, you will ruin the stew
You tell Him what you want, plant a seed and expect her to be sent to you. Yes, this works.
Go to several churches, eventually you’ll find her sitting in the congregation.
Go look in a kitchen.
You gotta break a LOT of eggs to make an omelette.
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Rules of thumb.
You get what you pay for. Advertise what you are selling. Do not misrepresent what you are selling. Go where what you want is located. Go to a grocery store for groceries. Go to a doctor’s office for medical attention.
You should also be willing to forgive. It is not your place to hold something against them, but be willing to forgive anyway. It has more to do with YOUR attitude than their past sins.
As far as attraction is concerned, it is only a first step. It is not necessarily the first step, just usually.
I know that if my wife lost her hair or a part of her body to illness or accident, I would love her no less. Once you get to know a girl, her physical appearance will not necessarily be what attracts you to her.
if u r really a good christian as you say,then pray to jesus for the right girl to come in your life daily.she will come definitely and try to practice some tolerance,if there are some irritating things about ur girl,they can be changed with time.love conquers all,gud luck.
go to church often and just do good things with your life and you will meet her sometime..
i used to go for girls with the looks you described, i had chinese, filipina/malaysian, and latin girlfriends and always fancied indian girls but God sent the one he had chosen for me and she is the opposite of everything i ever sinfully lusted after but more beautiful than i ever dreamed of…i was just back from travelling in the philippines, had been travelling through britain up to northern ireland and she came on one of the buses i was on and the only place for her to sit is next to me..
she’s got long blonde hair, blue eyes, golden tanned skin and she even came from the same town as me..as i said, the complete opposite of the kind of girls i was attracted to and lusted after.